At first I was going to put this post outside theMET but I decided…fuck it…let’s keep it here. 1. Life is a journey of self-discovery. Not too long ago I felt as though the floor had slipped under me and that I was left with nothing. Stripped bare, I had to figure out who I was and even though I’ll never fully know, I’ve learned to be more comfortable with myself. Having been with the same man for so many years I had lost my own self-identity and it was only in my darkest moment that I started to figure things out. 2. You’ll always second guess yourself…but that’s ok. Questioning yourself is natural. With time and experience those feelings start to subside. (At least I hope they do.) 3. It takes awhile to develop strong relationships. We all want to have a strong set of friends we can count on but what we put into a relationship is what we’re going to get out of it. Having lunch, making that phone call, writing an email – these all involve time, something we all don’t seem to have enough of. But at the end of the day, it’s going to be those moments that we’ll look back on. 4. Put yourself out there, be vulnerable…and the right people will respond. We live in a weird time. Never have we had a place, like the internet, where all of us can express ourselves so openly. Sure, some people will put up skanky pictures of themselves and some will be so freaked out by the experience, they won’t even be a part of it. The rest of us lie somewhere in between. 5. Be true to who you are. The word of the decade is authenticity. What does this mean? Figure out who you are – faults and all and just be. Don’t over-analyze yourself because at the end of the day, no one is going to judge you for that one misspelling or weird comment, they’re going to think of you as the sum of all your wonderful parts. So there are my lessons so far. I hope you enjoyed them.