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We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough. . . We never decide on our babies’ names until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever. . . To our Jack – I’m so sorry that the first few moments of your life were met with so many complications, that we couldn’t give you the home you needed to survive. We will always love you. . . Thank you to everyone who has been sending us positive energy, thoughts and prayers. We feel all of your love and truly appreciate you. . . We are so grateful for the life we have, for our wonderful babies Luna and Miles, for all the amazing things we’ve been able to experience. But everyday can’t be full of sunshine. On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder and get through it.
Chrissy Teigen shares much of her life on social media, and on September 30, 2020, she posted a heartbreaking photograph from the hospital. Accompanying the black-and-white image—in which she is inconsolably weeping in a hospital bed—was the news that she and husband John Legend lost their third child, whom they named Jack.
“We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about,” Teigen wrote on Instagram. “The kind of pain we’ve never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough.”
Driving home from the hospital with no baby. How can this be real.
— chrissy teigen (@chrissyteigen) October 1, 2020
In sharing this raw, profoundly painful moment, Teigen is undoubtedly helping other couples who face the same tragedy of a miscarriage. A typically taboo topic, miscarriage feels like a rare occurrence because it is often not addressed publicly. But, the reality is that anywhere between 10% and 25% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage. Women often feel shame and guilt—as if they have failed their baby in some way. Half of all miscarriages, however, occur due to chromosomal abnormalities. In other cases, there can be a host of issues that are just simply out of someone’s control.
Teigen is not the first famous person to deal with a miscarriage and talk about it publicly. She has, however, handled it differently. By sharing this photo and accompanying it with such vulnerable words, she is showing what it’s like to not be okay, as well as what it’s like to face such devastation without coming out the other side (yet). Teigen’s post also demonstrates that while we might not move on from tragedies like these, we do move forward. “On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder,” she said, “and get through it.”